Here we go, breaking through a depth of limiting beliefs to unveil a bold new philosophy. I'm thrilled to invite you on a captivating journey—a six-minute and forty-seconds encompassing my recent Pecha Kucha Knoxville presentation. I hope you find it as entertaining and thought-provoking as our live audience did. I urge you to dive in and, if it resonates, please share with someone who might benefit from a little "marriage counseling."
This is more than a presentation, it’s the hard launch for my speaking career. There are so many more ideas where this came from that I’m excited to share with the world. I also realize that change demands a vibrant community committed to deep, meaningful work on both ourselves and the spaces we inhabit. Your support in spreading these ideas could catalyze the change we need. I thank you in advance.
Where did the “wives” come from?
Over the past seven years as a home organizer, I’ve come to realize that our relationship with our belongings eerily resembles a fundamentalist polygamist marriage. Hear me out. Firstly, our things are legally bound to us. Secondly, we’re in charge—not because we’re superior, but because we have the decision-making abilities and—imagine this—arms with witch to move our "wives" around. And finally, it’s hard for our wives to advocate for themselves, not because they’re discouraged from speaking, but because they literally cannot speak—English. More on that later.
Why our “wives” matter
I began using the Mormon wife metaphor shortly after I started organizing, and it has since expanded to encapsulate every aspect of how we acquire and keep our objects. As you’ll see in my talk, it begins with whether we truly love each “wife,” and if not, what on earth are we doing with our lives? The way we handle one thing reflects how we handle everything. If we're engaging in any of the insanity I outline in the video above, it's worth examining why and considering a change.
Ultimately, I believe we're addicted to worrying what others do and blaming everyone but ourselves for the state of the world, be it politicians or "the rich." But the only realm we truly command is ourselves and our own spaces. Real transformation happens when we focus on the things we have power over. So, it’s absolutely worth it to root out any madness that might be lurking in our kitchen cupboards because it is a mirror of our psyche and our contribution to the state of the world.
A message from the “wives”
Thanks to this work, I’ve learned to speak “wife.” I'd love to relay a message from them to us. The wives would appreciate it if we stopped using them to cover uncomfortable feelings and instead faced and worked through them. They'd like us to love them for who they are, not because someone else thinks we should have a wife like that. The wives urge us to let them go if we've fallen out of love, rather than keep them trapped in the backs of our closets, attics, and basements. They want us to choose them because they are right for us, not because they were easy to acquire. The wives don’t have legs and if they did, they'd have walked away long ago. They are asking for respect and consideration.
A thank you to my clients
Thank you for making this work possible. I have learned and continue to learn so much every day as we work together. This only exist because of your belief in me in your ability to transform. This is some deep and intimate work, and you are very brave for facing your troubles head on. If I'm brave at all it is because I learned it from you.
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